Happy Mother's Day

By Melanie Tonia Evans

This Sunday it’s Mother’s Day in many countries including Australia and the USA.

It’s a bit of a shame that we don’t all celebrate globally at the same time of year; our UK friends, and some parts of Europe and Asia celebrate Mother’s Day at other times.

As a Mother, I love Mother’s Day … it is a very special get together time with my mother, family and son, and I deeply acknowledge it can be a painful time for many people in this Community, due to child alienation, loss of a child or inability to give birth to your own, or due to having had painful relationships with your own mother.

Please feel my hugs and love – if this has been your plight.

As women, mothers or not, I feel we have a spiritual mission – and that is to help birth love into this planet. I believe we all have the power, through us, to midwife something beautiful.

Woman are creators, we have wombs and we are naturally attuned to grace, support, love and peace. We have the ability to generate connection, healing and true nurturing for ourselves, others and our world – and I adore how women and the goddess within is rising in order to achieve this.

Woman are finding their voice and the ability to be equals and realise that authentic power and femininity can combine and be expressed in incredible and beautiful ways.

We are finding the way to harness love, authenticity and grace to help all of us evolve back to the connection to our Higher Power, ourselves, and love itself.

When we understand “Oneness”, we know we are all connected … but it isn’t until we get into our heart space and “be” love that we can experience this connection.

In order to be this connection, we need to fill ourselves first – we need to know that we are loved unconditionally by Life, by a Higher Power, and we are worthy of this love, just as we are – as ourselves.

Women traditionally (of course as well as men) have suffered from this disconnection and not known that they deserve to feel loved, supported and safe.

Women believed they were the caregivers, the fixers, the nurturers, and sadly that they needed to earn the right to be loved by others – and many of us believed the way to achieve this was to hand our power away.

It is only recently, in the developed world (only in a blink of an eye compared to the life age of humanity) that women have had rights to vote, to property and money, and in some cases their children – or even been employable. It is only recently that women have had “worth” or “value” anywhere near men.

Gloriously now women are coming into their own and being able to make decisions, have their own power and contribute this power in loving ways to others.

I truly believe that this new age of equality will serve men and women in healthier ways, creating a deeper connection of mutuality, respect and deeper intimacy … when enough of us heal and become connected and plugged into a True Source, and share that, rather than playing out power struggles, co-dependency and violence with each other.

The New Age of Women

As mothers and women we have a great responsibility and an incredible gift to give … and we are needed to evolve with our new world, this new model of “heaven on earth”.

We are learning to break free from the propaganda of media telling us that we are only worthy for how perfect our body image is, or how fashionable our dress sense is. It is wonderful to care about and adorn ourselves, yet imperative to embody that our worth and our love emanates from what is inside us.

When we unconditionally love ourselves, all of life that is loving follows.

Divinity has always loved us unconditionally – and until we get that, it means that we just hadn’t opened ourselves up to believe that was possible yet.

We have discovered that we can value ourselves, generate a healthy and wonderful life and still remain open to being loved and being partnered, yet our life’s survival is no longer dependent on that happening.

As women we are learning that it is sacred and “right’ to claim our sexuality. To know that we deserve to claim, express and rejoice in our eroticness in healthy ways.

We are learning that being “feminine” is enough, and the power that we have through us to lead, to dispense hope, soothe, create miracles, inspire dreams, heal fear and lend loving support is magnificent.

And we are realising that having our own opinion and life, even when partnered,  does not mean we need to be in competition with someone … and that there are ways to become a model of sharing power rather than fighting over it.

For women these are challenges – these are upgrades that have happened very suddenly in the history of humankind. It’s all taking place NOW… in accelerated time, with greater necessity.

Healing The Pain Body of Women

I believe our greatest mission is the releasing of our female pain and victimhood.

Many women have carried deep inside, the wounds and the collective painbody of women – the deep ancestral and present day scars of persecution, rape and brutality. But we need to awaken and realise that there are many wonderful men who are as horrified as we are about that, and if we hate men, even covertly, we don’t heal and we don’t claim our true feminine power.

If we don’t overcome and transcend our victimhood, not only can we not integrate healthily with a man – we also can’t integrate these unhealed parts without ourselves.

Then we simply stay in our emotional agony, inflict our victimisation on our daughters, sentencing them to play out the fear and pain with men that we passed on, and we also give permission to our sons to disrespect us, as well as other women … generated by our continued victimhood.

These old relationship models of fear and pain are falling – they can no longer stand the test of time.

Only “love” rules now.

Many of us discovered the price for trying to live in these old energies of “dependency” and “survival”, or naming something as “love” when it really wasn’t.

Many of us, through our experience of narcissistic abuse were literally forced to let go, in order to transcend our painbodies and develop something within ourselves of a much greater and higher value.

As women, we can’t sit back and say – “I’ll evolve later.” We really don’t have that emotional luxury, because something inside is nudging us with the urgency that we need to evolve from fear to love now.

Now is when we need to embody these new changes and bring them to life through us.

What We Can Teach Our Children

As the emotional healers and generators of life we are required to upgrade in regards to what we “teach” our next generation.

The roles of our children are no longer defined as strictly “male” or “female”. Our boys require a greater emotional intelligence rather than just being cast as “providers”, and our girls need to evolve into their own independence and power rather than just being “taken care of”.

As Mother’s What We Can Teach Our Boys

• To drop the need to one-up, hide and dominant. That it’s okay and even desirable to be “real”. To get close to people, to connect and show who he really is – including other men.
• To express emotions and vulnerabilities and know that being authentic is an incredible strength and not a weakness.
• That he is not expected to have to isolate and work it all out for himself. That his life includes unlimited resources and knowledge that he can access and tap into to find support, relief or help at any time in order to grow and expand – and in no way does this make him less manly.
• That rescuing women is not the way to earn approval or the security of love. And his rescuing of women does not empower them, but rather enslaves them to him in unhealthy ways.
• That dominating and controlling women does not secure love and devotion, but destroys intimacy. That it is safe for him to allow a woman to have her independence, and is essential in order for her and him to experience a relationship of healthy interdependence.

As Mother’s What We Can Teach Our Girls

• To value herself within relationships. To know her worth and know that a female who knows her worth does not believe in scarcity and does not cling when it hurts. She knows that love is available everywhere and that abuse is not love.
• That no matter how ambitious she is, relationships are vital, and a female without love, connection and loving relationships is starved of the ways that she needs to “be” love.
• That she doesn’t have to change herself in order for someone to love her. That her life need not be worrying about “being too much of this”, or “not enough of that”, and that when she loves and accepts her authentic self, other people will too.
• That she doesn’t need to make a choice between success or love – that she deserves and can have both.
• That it is possible to be feminine and strong and sacred and erotic simultaneously.