The Final Step To Creating Your Dream Life After Narcissistic Abuse

I sincerely hope you have got a lot out of these emails so far...

This last step is really exciting, because when you get this part right, it makes your journey to creating your dream life SO much easier.

The final step of this email series is Releasing Self Sabotage…

In this email I am going to explain:

1. Why releasing self-sabotage is critical to your personal growth.
 

2. How self-sabotage occurs, and why we tend to sabotage ourself (especially when we are on the brink of a breakthrough).

3. How you can start releasing your tendency to sabotage yourself, so that you can start creating the life you want much more quickly and with much less struggle.

Overcoming self-sabotage is HUGE and sooo important!

Like so many of us, I used to be an expert at self-sabotage!
 

We need to understand that within our bodies resides fearful, under-developed parts that are stuck in survival programs. These parts continue to trip us up if we don’t go to them, support them and up-level them.

We have all had the experience of repeat patterns in our life that are incredibly frustrating.
 

I know, if you are reading this email, it is likely (like so many of us), you have already done a GREAT DEAL of work on yourself – maybe for decades.

Within your self-development, you may be aware of these patterns, and even the limiting beliefs that are causing them – yet they are incredibly insidious – meaning often it doesn’t matter what you are trying to do to generate a new experience for yourself, these painful patterns continue to show up in your life.
 

Our self-sabotaging patterns usually show up just when we think we're in the clear, and just when we're about to break through, and that is why they can be especially disheartening and disappointing.

They can make us painfully give up, and give in to living a less than experience than what our soul is really yearning for

 

You may even feel cursed in certain areas of your life, because every time you try to achieve a desired goal something always seems to go wrong.
 

Maybe you're losing weight, exercising and then all of a sudden you find that you throw away your new and healthy regime, go back to eating unhealthily and come up with every excuse not to exercise.

Maybe you've joined a new Group because you want to evolve into being capable of connecting deeply with others. Then a member of the Group makes a comment that triggers you, and you stop showing up as sharing and connecting, shrink back and become invisible again.

Maybe you’ve started studying your dream career, and the voice in your head starts pulling you back into thoughts of fear of failure and that other people are so much more capable – and then you don’t believe you're good enough to pass the exams.

Maybe you start dating a great person, and can’t stop yourself picking this person to pieces, find fault, pull away and lose all attraction to him or her.

 

What Is Our Sabotage Self?

It is the young, fearful, underdeveloped inner being in our bodies which has stored painful false belief systems.

The sabotage self believes these painful beliefs and shows up in life as a way to generate the validity of these painful beliefs.
 

It may look like it's outside circumstances causing the breakdown, but truly it's our defences pulling the strings – attracting and generating the painful belief, and then being even further cemented in the validity of it.

Our sabotage self often activates right on the edge of our breakthrough and says “NO! That new truth doesn’t work for me! THIS is what is true!” and reacts to destroy the new desired direction.

 

You might be asking “But why does this happen?”
 

The sabotage self is deeply connected with the egoic part of you that tries as hard as it can to make 'less than life experiences' a reality.

Our ego is our enemy to personal growth and expansion. It likes holding on to pain, and it likes to keep you in pain. The sabotage self (this egoic part) shows up in any area of our life we've continually struggled with.

You may experience self-sabotage in the arenas of love, health, finances, friendships, family relations or self-love and self-worth.

This means you get to a certain point, and then just like a game of snakes and ladders, you slide right back to the start again.

So How Do We Overcome the Sabotage Self and How Does it Occur?

In order to overcome your sabotage self you need to make the unconscious conscious.

If you don’t, it doesn’t matter what you try to do with logic and strategies – your sabotage self will win out every time.
 

This means you have to go to these wounded, fearful parts of yourself which are holding the false beliefs, and up-level them in order to move into a expansive, whole, conscious and healthy way of being.

 

You can start this process by reflecting deeply within yourself and writing a list of the times you know you sabotage yourself.
 

It is so important to keep your focus on yourself, not the outer world, and know that you are the source that generates your own experience.
 

As you know, it is not about blaming and shaming yourself – it's truly about taking your power back in order to expand and grow.
 

Once you've named the patterns of self-sabotage, then you can drop right into your body, and feel the painful feelings of any particular self-sabotage.
 

Once you are consciously aware of your self-sabotaging tendencies, and the fearful emotions and insecure and underdeveloped parts of yourself, and really feel them in your body – then you can ask ‘What is this really about?”
 

When you are open and receptive with this fearful and hurt part of yourself, you will get your answer.

That way you are naming and claiming the fear and the false beliefs that are causing your self-sabotage reactions in certain areas of your life.

Then with the use of Quanta Freedom Healing, you can embrace and release these painful charges and limiting beliefs, and then bring down into yourself your true authentic power – which is Who You Really Are.

I have included the exact Quanta Freedom Healing processes that I used to release my sabotaging patterns, in Module 9 of the Empowered Self Course.

Once I up-levelled my self-sabotaging inner wounds, a profound shift occurred whereby my self-sabotaging tendencies dissolved.

Then rather than having repeat breakdowns, when I got to certain point in my life and couldn’t get any further, the breakthrough flowed naturally without the repeated struggle, pain and self-generated disappointments and disasters!

The fear, blocks and struggle were completely gone...Yay!!!

I promise you, releasing your sabotage self is a total game-changer. When you clear self-sabotage, who you want to be, and what you want to create starts opening up, in ways that you have never experienced before.

Then you CAN experience the full flourishing, nourishing, joy and expansion that your Life TRULY is!

 

Thank You For Taking Part In This Series!
 

If you have worked hard on the exercises in these emails you should be very proud of yourself!
 

If you know you are ready to expand, up-level and truly break free into a more radiant, glorious version of yourself, better than any version of yourself you have ever experienced, I want to help you make that Life Goal a reality.

>>Click here to check out the Empowered Self Course

The Empowered Self Course contains exactly what I discovered and applied to create the life I wanted to live after narcissistic abuse.

In this Course you will learn how to become your own source of love and approval, create trust and belief in yourself, discover how to release your co-dependent tendencies and align with who you want to be, and as a result of releasing the fear of laying boundaries, you will create wonderful authentic connections with others where you can full heartedly connect and conjoin powerfully and safely.

And, absolutely you will release your self-sabotaging parts!!

All of these components combined will allow you to expand and flourish into your highest potential and greatest joy!

And to make sure this Course has everything you need to make your dream life a reality, I have provided all the information and step-by-step instructions for you.

All you have to do is start at page 1!

 >>Click here to check out the Empowered Self Course

To thank you for being a NARP member and taking part in this series, I’ve also given you a special discount. 

P.S I know that if you follow the modules in this Course diligently, just like myself, you won't recognise your previous self.

Anything less than taking on your Inner Growth is wasted potential –because truly you have only just started touching on what is possible as an expansive, empowered self.

What we all really want is to be able to look back at our previous selves and say "Wow, I KNOW I showed up - I took my development on, and I chose to expand! Because I did (thank goodness) LOOK how different my life is NOW!"

There is nothing that brings me more joy than to see people grow and become Who They Really Are, and that’s exactly why I created this Course.

Because these tools are wayyyy too wonderful to keep them to myself!

>>Start Creating Your Dream Life Now

Much Love xo

Melanie Tonia Evans Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Expert, Author, Radio Host www.melanietoniaevans.com