For those of you on my Facebook Group you will have seen that I have been sharing a 10-part series.
The article and radio show this week is about a “mission” … it really is.
It’s about truly defining what I am most passionate about and what this calling to help change lives is really about.
A little over a week ago I had an awakening within me that was so powerful there was no ignoring it – and nor the “information” that was inspired within me. In know whenever this happens that there is something so much greater than myself pulling the strings.
I know this is a message that our world needs to hear – a message of raising consciousness – so that we can get well, and so that we can stop repeating the cycles of abuse / abused in our lives.
Being involved in narcissistic abuse recovery may seem like a really weird way to be involved in a mission of raising consciousness – yet it’s not – it makes perfect sense because it is in the trenches here, on the battlefield, where so much unconsciousness plays out.
First of all, we are dealing sadly with pathological beings, who through their own experience of suffering traumas or situations that created a splitting of self – which was generally created unknowingly through unconscious parenting and generational unconsciousness – have foregone all ability to have accountability, humility and the awareness to know how their beliefs, choices and behaviours negatively impact the world.
These people who suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disordered, are tragically a disordered self, a self who has severe unhealed inner wounds, those has been taken over by a False Self –a run amok never-satisfied ego, never satisfied regardless of whatever it gets, driving its host and others deeply into the living pits of hell.
We know we can’t change narcissists – they are not wishing to awaken and become conscious. So how can we raise their consciousness? The truth is we can’t.
So what am I talking about when I’m talking about raising consciousness?
What I am talking about is narcissists are NOT the entire problem – there is a lot more to it.
The Problem Created by Narcissists and Victims
In truth there really are only two types of relationships that can occur with other people and Life and the relationships people have with themselves: conscious and unconscious.
People who are on their way to consciousness, recognize there are unhealed wounds within them, aspects of themselves that need to grow, and these people who wish to create greater consciousness turn inwards to love, accept and partner with themselves, warts and all – in order to heal the aspects of themselves which aren’t generating the highest and best results in their life. These people recognize that being a generative source of one’s own experience means it is impossible to change others, and it is only possible to change one’s self to change one’s life.
Narcissists and people steeped in victimisation, on the other hand, are people who abdicate responsibility for their own lives and seek out others who they feel can provide it for them. People who are codependents mistakenly, and usually unconsciously, choose disordered partners who match the inner “separation” that they have with themselves and then feel they need to “fix” their partners, believing that will ensure that they are safe and loved.
Absolutely it is a horrendous experience of being a victim brutalized by a narcissist, whether this person is an intimate partner, a parent, family member or any abuser. I really want to normalize that for you – yes it is awful. And I hear from people every week who say, “Melanie my situation is unique … I REALLY need to tell you about it”.
I am here to tell you this … NO it isn’t! Your situation is not that special – every single one of us who suffered narcissistic abuse had our world blown to bits, and our worst fears because manifest into reality – and we all lived out these deepest fears, with a narcissist, in the literal bowels of hell.
Your situation is NOT unique! Truly – I have heard thousands of stories over the last eight years, and they are all have incredible components.
In fact exactly the components that needed to be there – and I’ll get to that.
And I don’t want you to take that the wrong way – I have absolute compassion for you – and I want more than anything for you to get better. I also know that what you went through, and are still likely to be going through, is the hardest most powerful breakdown experience you have ever had … that has left you shattered beyond anything you have ever experienced before … and my heart goes out to you in abundance.
I want and to pick you up give you the biggest hug! Truly!
However … me reinforcing “How terrible and shocking and how damaged you are and how disgusting the narcissist is”, is NOT going to help you get well.
And that’s why I’m not going to do that …
Because I care, more than words could ever express. Because I know what victimisation does – it destroys people. I lived it a hair breadth away from my own demise, and I refuse to be party to that for anyone else.
And that’s exactly what this topic is all about this week.
Mere Surviving or True Thriving?
This is something I have decided to really take a stand on and speak up about. Absolutely when we have been abused by narcissists it is an incredible relief and even necessary to realise that there is a name for this – narcissistic abuse – and we are not the only one (it is a world-wide epidemic) … as well as what a narcissist is, and why they do what they do.
But from that point on, we can stay mired in information all about narcissists, or we can state “Okay this person is disordered. There was no hope of a healthy relationship there … now what can I change and heal within me in order to recover and to stop this pattern in my life?”
The contemporary model of healing after narcissistic abuse is, unfortunately, highly ineffective – because it is simply looking at “what” happened to you (symptom), and is not addressing “why” this happened to you (true cause). It does not address subconscious wounding, which powerfully drives the emotions, thoughts and decisions that unconsciously leads people to and keeps individuals locked into the very trauma that they are trying to free themselves from.
Additionally, there is a world-wide toxicity trying fruitlessly to deal with the plight of abuse victims by training and encouraging individuals to be powerless victims rather than assisted them to become evolving beings.
How and why do we believe that researching, knowing and reading everything about narcissists is going to heal our own tormented, devastated inner wounds – when we are NOT attending to them?
This total insanity sadly is the major route of “trying” to heal from narcissistic abuse – and this model takes hostages by droves in Abuse Forums with hundreds of thousands of members world-wide.
These Abuse Forums are full of people believing they are a victim, talking about it every day with others, who are also sharing the war stories regarding how hopeless, devastated and destroyed their lives are at the hands of a narcissist. And going over and over and over it, cementing all of the reasons why they are so sick.
These people are getting sicker and not better, and their children are being positioned with the most dangerous recipe of all – a narcissistic parent and a victimized one – both horrifically unavailable and toxic.
This does nothing other than create future generations of abuser / abused.
The truth is the victim model is creating just as much damage and unconsciousness to our world as narcissists are – point blank.
Now before you want to eat me alive … please know I used to be a terminal victim – and I nearly exited this life as one. And I nearly completely alienated my son as one. And in the 8 years that I have dealt with thousands of people, many of which have made full Thriver recoveries, I have never seen one person – NOT one who is determined to hang on to the victim model who has healed – EVER.
In stark contrast, those same people are still on these Abuse Forums, still jumping up and down on roof tops proclaiming how evil narcissistic are, how damaged they are, and how terrible their lives are.
And this epidemic of victimhood that keeps people trapped in their woundedness is not going to change until more people wake up from the trance and understand that the abuse is our calling to go within and discover and transcend our own wounding that allowed and enmeshed us in abuse.
And then, when we do that, we are released from the abuse and healed from the abuse and the “message” no longer needs to be delivered.
And as such we have no remaining symptoms of abuse, and we are set free in every area of our life where our wounds used to limit us. There is no C-PTSD, there are no abuse symptoms left whatsoever!
Myself and thousands of other people in this Community are living proof of that!
Additionally we now no longer have “gaps” where deeply unconsciously people can play in life with us.
And the TRUE reason is because of this: We did the inner work and we changed … we connected to ourselves, learnt how to honor our emotions, and to show up without fear. To speak up when something is not right; trusting the emotions in our body and responding to that – instead of dimming down and selling out our values and our gut feelings.
This was only made possible as a result of finding and releasing our previous unhealed childhood wounds which used to hand power over – positioning someone else as necessary to “take care of us”.
Because we weren’t anchored in our body taking care of ourselves.
And these people that we positioned to take care of us – we clung to them – even when they abused us.
And by evolving ourselves, and being able to grow these young powerless wounds up, we could then break free from our abuse patterns, and shine the light of being authentic. A “light” that means anything that is NOT authentic, including False Selves gets flushed out of our reality real quick.
We can then also teach our children, by example – how to be real, how to claim our True Selves, and generate an authentic life. And THAT breaks these deadly unconscious cycles which have been ripping individuals, families and our world apart generation to generation.
It makes me sick to my core every time I hear a report of someone saying “You will have this for life (whatever anxiety disorder).” “You will have C-PTSD for life and you will only ever be able to manage it.” “You are stuck with the abuser for life,” or “People can’t get better but at least they can warn others about these evil monsters.”
It makes me sick when I ever read that stuff, or hear it, or someone posts it on my Forums.
Because those claims are total crap!!! They’re LIES.
They are NOT the truth!
The righteousness, the martyrdom the anger, the toxic resentment that is targeted at narcissists, which is purported to help people heal, is doing nothing to solve this problem – it is only making it worse.
It is making people drown in their own toxicity, drag other people into their toxic muck – and it creates collective toxicity that is poisoning our world.
I also really want to talk about the term “survivor” … when people say “I am a survivor of abuse.”
“Surviving” is NOT Living.
As far as I am concerned, there is no other way to live than the Thriver model, because anything else isn’t living at all.
Why on earth would we want to go through the most horrendous experience of our life if we weren’t going to get the most incredible up-level out of it as a result?
Why would we ever be content to GO through something rather than GROW through something?
This is why I am so adamant about the old “survivor” label being a thing of the past.
Because “surviving” generally means that you got out and you stayed out, but you still live with Complicated-Post Traumatic Disorder – because the truth is if you have been narcissistically abused, you were in a war-zone and you have C-PTSD – and that label means that even though you got out and got away, you are still less than because of what happened to you.
Over the last 8 years I have seen people 20 or 30 years on often who are diminished, they’ve lost all faith in self, life and others and are barely existing and often medicated – sometimes with serious anti-psychotics – which means they are so numb and tired that you are barely functioning.
All because the original wounds and transcending Who They Were Being – the unconscious “other half of the magnet”, was never addressed!
If you are not getting relief and the up-levelling into a healthy state it’s because the symptoms, which is your Inner Being screaming in torment are being “treated” with things trying to stop the screams – but nothing is happening to heal the reasons why your Inner Being is screaming.
The true reasons that the abuser was only a symptom of.
And that’s what happens when we only “go” through stuff, instead of using it as the grandest opportunity to grow as a result of what happened to us.
So … whenever I hear someone say “I am a Survivor of Abuse” I have to be honest, my heart sinks … because generally I know that this person feels like a victim, that they haven’t connected to the up-level or the gift – and more than likely they have been trained to identify themselves as a victim, and to see their life through “victim eyes.”
Which means, “Now I have to defend and protect myself against narcissists.” And … “Now I’m looking out everywhere for narcissists.” And … “I’m learning everything I can to keep myself safe from narcissists, so that I never fall for another one again, yet I’m doing all of that stuff but why, WHY do I still feel the pain?”
The reason is: Because NONE of that is the answer!
My journey, being heavily involved in abuse recovery has proven to me how accurate my theory is, that when people start saying and posting, “I am a survivor of abuse”, I know they haven’t got it yet – and I wish they did.
This is why I am so passionate and I have so much joy in showing people how to create the Thriver Model for themselves – because when we heal our original wounds, and when we start claiming and healing into our True Self state, there is no longer be any part of us that is still hooked in, victimized, generating suffering or depression, anxiety or any abuse symptoms whatsoever.
Those “things” are just not a part of having evolved yourself to become your True Self. We are in a different Universal Reality. These things just don’t exist there.
Rather, we are so expanded and radiant, confident and up-levelled that Life become an incredible gift of unlimited, never-ending joy – more than it ever was even before the abuse.
Now, please know I am not saying that just land in “fairy-land” and you never have challenges or triggered emotions again. Absolutely you still do, but you are no longer victimized by them. You are growing through experiences with the consciousness of using these challenges to grow and expand yourself. So life just gets better and better, and delivers less and less wake-up calls – needed to wake you up to make you become conscious.
All of it becomes an understanding, “That was perfect. It needed to happen, for me to come to this.”
That is the level of healing that I live in my own life every day, and I have the absolute pleasure to see generated within my Community amongst thousands of people, and more and more individuals every day – who are leaving that old victim model behind, and learning a way to heal and break away from the narcissistic muck, pain, fear and resentment that they have stayed entrenched in every day of their life.
These people who are becoming conscious, got to the truth, that what the narcissist brought up in every one of us was our deepest wounds, was our most unconscious parts – the parts of ourselves that were keeping us separated from our true and magnificent lives.
We originally thought we were trying to heal from the narcissist but the truth was he / she / they was only a catalyst – what we had always needed was to be freed from ourselves.
This article is my greatest effort to display the stark difference between these two Universe’s apart healing orientations – The Victim Model and the Thriver Model … and I really urge you to feel the statements in your body – because that is your gauge of what is the truth.
Not the stories that your mind makes up. Our mind when we ignore the truth in our body, has to come up with excuses, justifications and reasons. In stark contrast to the truth which just is. Whenever we start doing that we are in Danger Land – we are in our ego, and being taken away from our wholeness rather than towards it.
So please feel in your body which model uplifts you and grants you energy, and which one drains your energy and keeps you mired in agony and hopelessness.
I also urge you to read the posts and comments that happen in this community regularly (feel them in your body) and then go to any standard Abuse Forum and feel the energy there, and you will know – point blank – the difference.
The following is to awaken you from the person you may have been being – not understanding why you are not recovering – into the person you can be on your way to wellness.
Please find my ten part series: Raising Consciousness – The Difference Between Victimisation and Thriving.
Narcissists are expertly wired to find and seek out your weak spots, your “gaps”. This is what they use to bait you, hook you and punish you with.
The Victim Model reaction:
“That is disgusting that monsters like this can use my weaknesses against me with such cruelty.”
or ..
“Wounds what inner wounds and gaps? I don’t have any. I’m not the sick one!”
The Thriver Model response:
“Thank you for being the person that hit me so hard with these unconscious parts of myself that I finally turned inwards to do the work on them.
Because of you, I have not just been able to evolve beyond your abuse, I have been able to create a better life on every level where my wounds used to limit me.”
Sooo …. which Model do you think creates true healing?
The truth is we attach ourselves to people, and allow people to be in our life who treat us in identical ways that we believe about and relate to ourselves.
Narcissists reflect back every way we have not established how to be with ourselves unconditionally, without judgment and criticism, and how we had not learned how to self-soothe or be our own generative source of truth, love and emotional solidness.
The Victim Model reaction:
“I hate you and blame you for not being the ‘loving person’ you pretended to be.”
The Thriver Model response:
“I am no longer going to look for love in all the wrong places … meaning outside of myself. I am now coming home inside me to create the most important relationship of my life – the one that was always necessary to have a healthy relationship with life and others.
I know it’s time, finally, to clean this up!”
Sooo …. which Model do you think creates true healing?
Living from our ego, in our minds, is all about how everything else is more important than “us”.
We think we will be valued for what we have, how intelligent we are, how attractive we are … what we have accomplished, and whether or not we have the “right” partner.
Someone who looks a certain way or has enough money, connections or lifestyle – and someone who sees and appreciates our “value”.
So in comes the narcissist to our life – looking like the “perfect” match for the things that make us feel “valuable”.
The Victim Model reaction:
“I hate you and blame you for not valuing me and for not giving me or destroying the things in my life that I value so much.”
The Thriver Model response:
“I am grateful beyond measure that now … I listen to my feelings, I go for authentic wholeness. I will never again ignore my painful emotions and sell my soul out for lesser items or states.
You taught me one of the hugest messages of my life, which was to value my soul. To stop gauging life through stuff and appearances and approval and to really, really honour my own soul – and place its wellbeing as my highest priority.”
Sooo …. which Model do you think creates true healing?
As a result of being narcissistically abused we feel incredibly traumatised and diminished, as well as mentally and emotionally and even physically “unwell.”
It’s usual to suffer breakdowns to the level of experiencing C-PTSD or actual dis-ease.
Dis-ease being the imperative word …
… because when we aren’t listening to our soul truths (our emotions), and when we are not doing the work to integrate with ourselves, so that we can stay away and look after ourselves … we only continue to disintegrate.
The Victim Model reaction:
“Because of you my health is destroyed. I have C-PTSD now, I am a shattered mess, and because you – you soulless person – did this to me, I will now probably have these symptoms for years if not for the rest of my life.”
The Thriver Model response:
“Previously I hadn’t realised the price I would pay for not being partnered with myself, for not honouring myself, and not doing the work on my wounds in order to be able to become a solid source to myself.
But now I do, and I know beyond any doubt that when I heal those parts of me which were previously handing power over, and causing me to be powerless and abused – I will become more empowered, confident, healthy, happy and full of life force, wellbeing, joy and purpose than I ever have been in my entire life.
I am evolving myself to become my True Self.
Then how can I be sick? … I won’t be!”
Sooo …. which Model do you think creates true healing?
Before and during narcissistic abuse we have not known how to show up fully “as ourselves”.
And what that means is we hand over power – we choose to believe “a version” or how we wish someone else to be, rather than understand and honour our body cues and speak up honestly to clarify things.
We are much more likely to “go along”, ignore body cues and keep the peace rather than risk criticism, abandonment or punishment.
We do not want to shatter the illusion of someone granting us the love and approval that we are failing to grant ourselves … by NOT showing up authentically.
Then we meet other people wearing masks also. People reflecting back to us the ways we are not being real.
People who are also not being their True Self.
The Victim Model reaction:
“Why couldn’t you be real? Why didn’t you love me for real? I hate you for being fake and not being the real person you professed to be!”
The Thriver Model response:
“I completely and utterly understand now that if I am not authentically myself, I am not going to be able to align with people who are their authentic self either.
Now I have the absolute joy and purpose of releasing my fears and limited beliefs, so that I can be fully myself, truthful and authentic and finally be the generative centre of real life and love with others.”
Sooo …. which Model do you think creates true healing?
As children we had very little choice regarding our lives, and sadly if we have become adult wounded children we may not realise … in fact we do.
We can heal, we can develop beyond our wounding and we can “grow up”.
We alone as adults, are responsible for our own emotional wellbeing, our own boundaries and being the creator of love, happiness and fulfilment in our lives.
You can’t “get” love, happiness and fulfilment, you can only “be” it.
When we assign another adult as responsible for our own lives – we are not responsible for ourselves.
How on earth can a person who doesn’t have the capacity to be responsible for themselves (another wounded adult) be responsible for us?
How on earth can we expect not to be responsible for our own wellbeing and then attract and be in relationship with a responsible other who will be?
See the disconnect?
The Victim Model reaction:
“I hate you and blame you for not being the provider of my love, happiness and fulfilment. You promised me ‘everything’, you told me you would be those things for me!!”
The Thriver Model response:
“Wow! I sooo understand that I was expecting someone else to be the provider of love and happiness and a great life for me! I pinned all my hopes on this person, thinking they were the answer to my prayers. But instead they really showed me exactly how I was not being a Source of love, happiness and wellbeing to myself. Thank God I have woken up from that!
I now understand that as an adult, I am the generative Source of my own experience – directly with Life – and this is NOT someone else’s job. Then I will heal and create a life generating wellbeing for myself and then I can connect with others who are whole and healthy.”
Sooo …. which Model do you think creates true healing?
Narcissistic abuse is one of the most horrible plights on society because its toxicity creates future generations of unconscious damaged people.
Which ultimately means an epidemic of present and future relationship of codependents and narcissists.
The truth is: the parent victims stuck in toxicity make the other half of this dynamic horrendously complete.
They are just as unavailable, just as damaging to their children and grant all the reasons “why” they themselves will be abandoned and abused by their children (victimised toxicity is a repulsive negative energy which attracts more of itself), and they run the terrible risk of being easily alienated from their children by the narcissist.
This is despite them doing everything they can to make everyone else validate their victimhood – including their children …
When all along they needed to validate and heal themselves, in order to be an example to their children.
The Victim Model reaction:
“No-one sees what has happened to me. My children believe him / her … they won’t listen to me, they don’t believe what happened to me. They took his / her side! My children have been turned against me by that MONSTER!”
The Thriver Model response:
“My greatest pledge to my children is that I will focus on healing and developing myself first and foremost, so that I set an empowered example of authenticity, realness, truth and love – by being my True Self in their presence.
And, within this – I won’t control – I will allow them to be themselves. Because I know that they too are on a profound journey of evolving themselves with the parents they chose.
Whenever my children are with me, I will not seek their validation and I will not project my wounds on to them and try to make them take responsibility for them. I will not use them as mechanics to find out about the narcissist. I will not be toxic and smear the narcissist and I will not micro-manage, over-involve or interrogate.
Instead I will be a force of love, empowerment, healthy boundaries, joy and truth in their lives.”
Sooo …. which Model do you think creates true healing?
And even more VITALLY important.
Which model do you think stops the unconscious epidemic cycles of abuse / abused?
(As a Mother, I am incredibly passionate about this one, Number 7. My heart goes out to parents suffering this – but I am more concerned for our children and our future generations, and this is a call out for parents to wake up and stop doing this – playing the victim model with your kids … so that you can be a healthy example.)
Narcissistic abuse causes a complete overturning of your life.
What you thought your life was, and how it would end up is generally reduced to a pile of rubble at your feet.
So many people lost jobs, homes, the relationship they thought was “the one” … assets, health, sanity and even contact with children.
Virtually everyone lost all self-respect for themselves. We lost our identity of who we thought we were.
This challenges us at every level to let go of egoic attachments and the way we believed our life should unfold, to realise there is a Higher Design taking place.
If we stay in resistance to that truth then we will live a personal experience of ongoing torturous hell.
The Victim Model reaction:
“This is not how my life was meant to be! YOU destroyed my life. It is your fault my life is like this. I will never accept there is a higher purpose for this! It’s all JUST pure evil”
The Thriver Model response:
“I know that right here right now regardless of what it looks like, there is only the Pure Light of Divinity operating here. I accept that everything is in perfect order – I needed to be stripped of all who isn’t the real me, in order for me to connect to my True Self – so that it could come forth and shine.
I will not be in resistance to this. I will accept with all of my being the most important mission of my life, which is to heal beyond my False Self and illusions in order to become an authentic person operating as an expression of The Divine.
Therefore I bless and accept this breakdown / breakthrough process full-heartedly, and I will do all I can to work with it, to midwife myself through to the New Me and the New Life I am gloriously becoming.”
Sooo …. which Model do you think creates true healing?
After experiencing narcissistic abuse there are so many areas of our life that have broken down. And so many parts of ourselves.
If we wish to hang on to what has gone, or if we try to revive our old life, or our old way of being in Life, this is futile because it’s gone.
Because it was meant to go …
We can either view this as the greatest tragedy of our life, or the most spectacular opportunity Life could have ever dealt us.
The opportunity to …
… deeply investigate where we didn’t fully love and accept ourselves and remedy that.
… realise how we were selling or our ideals, values and intuition, in an attempt to negotiate with Life for someone else to take care of us and heal those survival fears.
…. embrace how we were not showing up as our True Selves in loving, compassionate, self-honest and solid maturity navigating our life from that centre and transcend that.
…. wake up as to how we were exercising judgements in our life and how these dire judgments of ourselves and others literally became a real life hell and release ourselves from egoic states in order to become love.
The Victim Model reaction:
“You took all of me that was good and wonderful, and abused it and destroyed it. My life will never be the same because of what you did to me.”
The Thriver Model response:
“Thank you for showing me the parts of myself and my ego that were buying into ‘survival’ and ‘fear’ and ‘neediness’, rather than ‘creation’ and ‘love’ and ‘authenticity’.
These are all parts that do not serve me, that have limited me, that have made me hand my power over, opting for the safe routes that certainly weren’t.
These were the parts of me that did not allow me to be honest and express myself truthfully, because I wanting others to approve of me and keep me safe.
These parts of me did not allow me to self-generate and create a life that represents the Real Life and contribution I deeply desire to live.
These are the parts of me that did not love and accept myself and then blamed others when they didn’t love and accept me.
Because of you abuser, my old life is destroyed. I am grateful that there is nothing to go back to there – because, as of now, I have the grandest opportunity to generate my True Life, my Real Self and Life – the only one that was EVER going to fulfil me.”
Sooo …. which Model do you think creates true healing?
There is a grand illusion within narcissistic abuse that the narcissist holds All Power and that you have none.
There is also a grand illusion in our human experience that Darkness is more powerful than Light.
Yet … how can that be true when wherever, even the smallest light shines, there is no darkness?!
False Selves are darkness, an inner void of “nothing”– a black hole that has no power of it’s own, and needs to extract the energy of fear and pain from others in order to exist and survive.
Additionally we believe the currency of the world is built on Falseness, and we play into that – we dim our light, we protect, we retract, we wear masks “playing the game”, and we become just as “defensive” as the ultimate victims who victimise others (abusers).
We sell out our True Power and hand it over to False Selves, who ironically have no real power.
The Victim Model reaction:
“He / she is all powerful. I am a defenceless, helpless victim in the face of vile evil. This person is destroying me, won’t stop and I am being destroyed.”
The Thriver Model response:
“I know you have no real power! You are a False Self, a horrendously wounded child, projecting your wounds and needing my fear and pain to sustain your game.
I’m not playing anymore! I am not in fear of you wounded child, I actually only have compassion that you are so wounded that you behave the way you do. And … I know that your incredible gift to me was to partner with myself and heal from being the wounded powerless adult child that I once was.
And by doing so, I reconnect back to me – back to my heart, back to my soul, back to my truth, purpose, joy, love and true fulfilment in life.
I get to become an integrated being – one where you are Not My Reality – a reality where I am not in Life playing with other disconnected beings anymore.
Instead I am connected to the Glory and the Truth of my Divine Being and my Divine Powerfulness – my state of “being” that serves myself and others in the Highest Ways.
Because, dear lost soul, from the greatest of illusions of darkness that I once lived with you, I have now transcended and anchored into my True Light.”
Sooo …. which Model do you think creates true healing?
I Hope This Article Has Granted You Clarity of the Truth!
And the necessary shift that our world desperately needs if it is going to get better on a personal and collective level.
We need to do this shift … desperately… one person at a time.
Because how are you going to change your personal world and the world you live in if you aren’t going to change yourself?
The answer is you can’t – because you have NO power to change anything or anyone that isn’t you.
And that is the craziest illusion of all of man-kind that they can. Look at the state of our world and you will see where that illusion has almost led us – to a literal annihilation of ourselves.
Please have the courage to pass this article on to where it is needed.
Please have the courage to share it widely. And stand back, because it may be received like a bomb going off in places where people want to stay mired in victimhood.
That’s okay, because I know there are many people in such places who have had enough of feeling toxic and sick, and something is waking up inside them knowing there has to be another way to heal.
So PLEASE – spread the word …
Most importantly … this article is about you embracing this information, and I really want you to start tuning into your body, start listening to the Infinite Wisdom inside you, through your emotions – which will tell you every time without exception whether you are on track or not.
Read and feel how “victimisation” feels in your body – and then read and tune into how “Thriving” feels in your body.
Also please note my next 3 Keys To Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse Free Webinar is happening the 3rd August at 6PM PST. This is a comprehensive three hour tele-class where I share with you how to implement the Thriver Model in your life. This is all about accessing how to come out the other side of narcissistic abuse, better than you ever were, even before you were abused.
Even if abuse is all you have ever known since childhood.
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